Imagine getting a jumpstart on improving your relationship in just one week – from not-so-hot to considerably better, from good to great, from great to fantastic.Try any one of these Toad-to-Prince Transformers and watch the love grow! Email us your experience at info@toadtoprince.com, we enjoy sharing your good news.

TOAD TO PRINCE TRANSFORMATION OPTIONS

1. Catch your man in the act of doing something right!

Often, we’re so preoccupied with what our guys are doing wrong, that we ignore or take for granted what they’re doing right! Unfortunately, faced with constant criticism, many men give up, and retreat to the safety of the couch – thus the “Toad on the Couch” syndrome.

For one week, focus on what your man is doing right – whether it’s helping you with the kids, taking the trash out (yes, I know it’s his chore and nobody pays attention to everything you do), giving you a hug – whatever it is, thank him and praise him for it. Just set aside, for now, your criticisms and focus on appreciating all that he does right. You may be surprised at how much more of a Prince he becomes.

2. Respect your man’s biology.

No, I don’t mean what’s below the waist, I mean what’s between his ears. Men’s brains are wired differently than ours, and once you understand and appreciate that, you will be much more successful in communicating with your guy.

For example, most men do not like conversations where you’re face to face, staring them right in the eyes. They’re more comfortable talking side by side, or catty-corner, and preferably when they’re doing something benign with you like taking a walk. Men, being great at single-minded focus (whereas we’re primo multi-taskers) have difficulty switching their thought from whatever they’re paying attention to (the game, something on the computer, a project) to what we want to talk about. You’re better off waiting until he’s not focused on something.

For one week, respect his hard-wiring as above, and then, instead of saying “We have to talk,” which immediately spikes men’s danger signals, say “What do you think about . . .” and when he answers, just say “Huh. That’s interesting. Thanks, Hon,” and wait until later in the day to share your thought: “You know, I’ve been thinking about what you said. How about if . . .” In other words, give him the space and time to mull it over. Refrain from attacking his opinion. Look for common ground within what he says and build the conversation from there: “Yeah, I agree with you there, and . . .” (not “but” which again, raises defensive hackles). As you make it safe for your man to communicate with you, intimacy can grow in a whole new way.

3. Prime the love pump with praise.
Did you know that a primary reason men have affairs is they don’t feel appreciated by their spouse? A steady diet of loving attention and praise is how to revitalize any relationship.

For one week, quit harping on his flaws, and put your attention squarely on anything you can genuinely appreciate about your mate. Whether it’s “I love the feel of you in the morning” or “What a great job you did on that project” or “Mm-hmm, you are one sexy guy,” tell your man, with words, with touch, with little notes how much you value and appreciate him.
It’s not that hard – it’s what you did during your courtship. You sang his praises to him, to yourself, to your girlfriends, and anyone else who would listen. Get in that mode again, and watch him respond in kind (once he gets over the shock...).

4. Throw a welcome home party, every night!
Your guy wants to feel like he makes a difference in your life. More than that, he wants to be your Knight in Shining Armor – not that you have to be a Damsel in Distress, far from it, he just wants to know that he pleases you. That’s why, what matters most to your man, is to see you smile. And unfortunately, with all the challenges life throws at us, most of the time you’re not thinking about that when he or you walk in the door at night.

For one week, let him know how special he is when he or you get home at night. Just for a moment, drop everything, and give him a great big smile, a hug and a “I love coming home to you” or “I’ve looked forward to this all day” or “My but you feel good” – whatever is sincere and works for you. He may at first be bemused, as in “Who are you and what have you done with my wife?” but keep it up, and watch what happens as you restore these good-feels between you.

5. Say “Yes,” “I agree,” or “OK” – a lot.
Ever stopped to think how often you say “No,” “I don’t want that,” “That’s dumb,” “How can you say that?” or “Why are you doing it that way?” to your man? Too often, we insist that our way is the only acceptable way to be or do or think. Your guy can’t possibly reveal the Prince he can be when he’s berated on a daily basis.
For one week, try it his way. In other words, unless it’s something that seriously interferes with your well-being, say “Yes,” whether in words or simply by going along with his idea. If he stacks the dishes differently from you, let it be. Wants to cuddle when you’re not in the mood? Let yourself relax and you may find you get in the mood. Comes up with a zany idea you’d usually scoff at? Say “That’s interesting, tell me more.” You’ll be making it so much easier for your man to be your Prince.